Community · marriage

Back to Our Future, aka: We’re Moving!

It was 1988, I had been a Christian for less than 2 years, David was one month out of Bible college, and we were three weeks into our marriage, when we left California and drove across the country to Danville, Illinois, where my husband had taken a job as a Youth Pastor. During the transition,… Continue reading Back to Our Future, aka: We’re Moving!

affair recovery · Freedom · marriage · spiritual growth

When It Matters Most

I like to imagine that I have my own bodyguard. A tough guy, who is equally intelligent. Imagine James Bond, minus the misogyny, following me around and protecting me from the world’s terrors. Oh, and the terrorizing is primarily internal, so he also lives in my brain. You know…phenomenal cosmic powers…itty-bitty living space. My brain… Continue reading When It Matters Most

affair recovery · marriage

He said, She said

He said he would be her friend. She said she had never had a friend like him. He said, “Let’s take a walk on the beach.” She said, “You can hold my hand.” He said, “I’ll write to you from England.” She said, “You can kiss me goodbye.” He said, “I want a Christmas wedding.”… Continue reading He said, She said

affair recovery · marriage

The Twenty-Seventh List

A wedding anniversary is a day to celebrate a series of days where two people were successful at treating one another with more grace than either one deserved. This year we are celebrating twenty-seven years of failures and successes.

affair recovery · marriage

Why I Don’t Like Weddings Anymore

I used to like weddings.ย  There is something surreal about them; everything is familiar, and yet, different. There are the basic elements: bride, groom, flowers, a general feeling of enchantment, and the personality of the couple shines in the variations that emerge. At one wedding the relaxed nature of the couple shines in the simple… Continue reading Why I Don’t Like Weddings Anymore

affair recovery · marriage

The Lies We Believe

I am an obsessive researcher, but only compulsively.ย  Driven by this nature, God spoke to me in a most unlikely place. Through a Google search I wound up on an advertising website reading an article entitled, Changing Beliefs Vs. Changing Behaviors. The article stated that while it is easy for advertisers to change customers behaviors,… Continue reading The Lies We Believe

affair recovery · marriage

Outtakes of a Crisis

Overย the last 12 weeks, David and I have been on a journey, and because we had our situation announced to the large ministry I was a part of, we decided that we would not hide what was happening in our lives from the people who were interested and invested in walking this journey with us.… Continue reading Outtakes of a Crisis