affair recovery · Freedom · marriage · spiritual growth

When It Matters Most

I like to imagine that I have my own bodyguard. A tough guy, who is equally intelligent. Imagine James Bond, minus the misogyny, following me around and protecting me from the world’s terrors. Oh, and the terrorizing is primarily internal, so he also lives in my brain. You know…phenomenal cosmic powers…itty-bitty living space. My brain… Continue reading When It Matters Most

affair recovery · Limerence

Honest Adventure – The Love Addiction Trilogy, Part 3

“Just sit right back and you’ll hear a tale, a tale of a fateful trip, that started from this tropic port aboard this tiny ship. The mate was a mighty sailin’ man, the Skipper brave and sure. Five passengers set sail that day for a three hour tour. A three hour tour.” The frustrating thing about watching Gilligan’s Island is that all the rules for what would actually happen in this scenario seemed to have been been tossed overboard in the storm.

affair recovery · Community

FREEDOM: The Story of the Bathtub Picture

The “Thread Family” is a group of people with a Facebook status that has been running strong since February 2013. There are over sixty-three thousand comments on the status update, and I don’t think there has even been one day when someone hasn’t commented. The people in the Thread Family are not genetically related to… Continue reading FREEDOM: The Story of the Bathtub Picture

affair recovery · Limerence

Honest Fear – The Love Addiction Trilogy, Part 2

I was sitting on my porch reading a Stephen King book when I had a scary thought. Ironically, the fear didn’t come from reading about an evil clown or an animal brought back to life in a Pet Cemetery. I was reading the author’s bestselling book, On Writing. This particular book is listed as one… Continue reading Honest Fear – The Love Addiction Trilogy, Part 2

affair recovery · Limerence

Honest Beginnings – The Love Addiction Trilogy, Part 1

Long before sin corrupted my life, a dysfunctional way of thinking had polluted my mind and my heart. In this 3 Part Blog Series I will attempt to explain what I have come to learn about Limerence, or “the love addiction”, and the way it corrupts the thinking of those it affects, and what I… Continue reading Honest Beginnings – The Love Addiction Trilogy, Part 1

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Beauty in the Aftermath

It was ten days after the affair had ended. It was three days after my failure had been announced in a large public forum. I wandered into my husband’s study and sat down at his computer and created this Blog-site.  As you may imagine, my head was spinning, my pride was still running rampant and… Continue reading Beauty in the Aftermath

affair recovery · spiritual growth

When Comparison Met its Killer

Comparison dug its teeth into my heart. The irony of what I was experiencing was not lost on me, but it didn’t minimize the effect of the downward spiral of emotions I was feeling. A couple of weeks ago I was invited to speak at a women’s coffeehouse event at a church in Phoenix. The… Continue reading When Comparison Met its Killer

affair recovery · Community · spiritual growth

Serendipity at the Cappuccino Bar

This is the tale of two women, the day God decided they needed to meet, and the morning they learned why. It was a lazy Saturday morning in February, and my husband and I were laying in bed sipping coffee while we leaned into one another and let time drift by with little conversation. We… Continue reading Serendipity at the Cappuccino Bar

affair recovery · marriage

He said, She said

He said he would be her friend. She said she had never had a friend like him. He said, “Let’s take a walk on the beach.” She said, “You can hold my hand.” He said, “I’ll write to you from England.” She said, “You can kiss me goodbye.” He said, “I want a Christmas wedding.”… Continue reading He said, She said

affair recovery · spiritual growth

IF:Story – Transforming Stones

Last weekend I attended the IF:Gathering, a Christian conference for women. During the closing session each woman was given a smooth stone just large enough to fit nicely into the palm of one’s hand. We were instructed to use the stone in the same vein which God had instructed Joshua and the leaders of Israel… Continue reading IF:Story – Transforming Stones